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I have a very loving bf and he’s a teacher. He’s very loveable and good to kids/ parents but have toxic friends. His friends will always leech on him and ask him out on weekends and he will always pay for them. We are financially independent but I just felt his friends are parasites. Sometimes when he’s away doing something and I saw his messages that his friends asking him out, I’ll delete the messages or make a plan for ourselves so he doesn’t get to go with them. After some time, I felt this is not going away. He will still make time for them regardless, even after going out with me whole day over the weekend. I don’t want to make him choose between his friends and me but his friends just don’t get it. Anyone is similar predicament care to shed some light what should I do?
~ Armitha
First of all, as a girlfriend, you have no authority over how he spend his money, regardless of whether its dumb or not. Unless you guys are togther for a few years or near marriage.
Second, the first step u should take is obviously communication. Communicate with him of your concerns, and discuss with him of the steps that he is comfortable in taking. In the least, he should try just not treating them for a month. It will be very evident whether they are using him for money. You must understand he might have legit insecurities that lead him to do this. You must understand the issue is with him, not the friends. because he would be taken advantage of by other people regardless if his method doesnt change.